“If someone asks money for food, offer them food.” This was a statement said by my mom a while back that stuck with me. It really should be applied to everybody’s life. First, let me explain the situation behind that statement: somebody asked my dad for some money for food to which my mom told him that very statement and that somebody left him alone when he offered food instead. In other words, that somebody was tryin to trick my dad into giving him money for something else, something that happens a lot nowadays.

Now if I had the resources, I wouldn’t mind helping somebody out. However, I stick with that rule of thumb so much that it severely bothers me when someone asks “Can I have money for _____?” If you need _____ then why not just say “Can I have _____?” Now I understand you need actual money for certain things (gas, trips, bills), but by asking that question to me you cause me to believe that you wanna use it for “other” things that I wouldn’t give you money for to begin with, especially since money is hard to come by to begin with.

Now, I might touch on something “offensive” with this one but I disagree with child support laws for this very statement. Why? Well, why should a man give money for his child instead of the actual necessities the child needs (diapers, clothes, toys, food)? And I already know what some of you are goin to say, “Because there are deadbeat dads out in this world!” and I agree. But here is the question, did this mothers with deadbeat baby daddies really think of the consequences? Did they not know that it was possible that HE could be one of those types? Did they look at the clues (one night stand, no job, lazy)?

While I’m on the topic of child support, that’s what it really is: support of the CHILD. Pretty simple right? Well, unfortunately, there are mothers in this world that like to think that it’s for them too which is another reason why I don’t like it. It would bother me that I have to give my hard earned money to someone that is not by law (if I’m correct) required to spend it on my child. In fact, why not make it to where it is, by law, required that a man spend time with his child since that’s more valuable than money itself?

Sorry to get a little off subject. Anyways, we’re in a rough time in this economy and we should try to help someone every once in a while. Money is hard to come by so give them something else that you can actually give. If they ask for clothes, do you think they need that $800 suit or some clothes that you don’t wear anymore that just so happens to fit them? If they ask for food, do you think they need a $50 meal or that leftover thing of spaghetti you made last night? If they need something to do, do you think they need money for some weed or alcohol, or a night of spades, games, or just somebody to chill with?